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The bully feels inadequate and compensates for it by being violent - verbally, psychologically, or physically. Some bullies suffer from personality and other mental health disorders. They feel entitled to special treatment, seek attention, lack empathy, are rageful and envious, and exploit and then discard their co-workers.
Bullies are insincere, haughty, unreliable, and lack empathy and sensitivity to the emotions, needs, and preferences of others whom they regard and treat as objects or instruments of gratification.
Bullies are ruthless, cold, and have alloplastic defenses (and outside locus of control) - they blame others for their failures, defeats, or misfortunes. Bullies have low frustration and tolerance thresholds, get bored and anxious easily, are violently impatient, emotionally labile, unstable, erratic, and untrustworthy. They lack self-discipline and cannot concentrate or focus on their assignment or job. They are egotistic, exploitative, rapacious, opportunistic, driven, reckless, and callous.
According to the United Kingdom (UK) National Workplace Bullying Advice Line, serial bullies are emotionally immature and control freaks. They are consummate liars and deceivingly charming. Bullies dress, talk, and behave normally. Many of them are persuasive, manipulative, or even charismatic. They are socially adept, liked, and often fun to be around and the center of attention. Only a prolonged and intensive interaction with them - sometimes as a victim - exposes their dysfunctions.
Workplace bullies are not confined to management. One's co-worker, colleague, or secretary can bully as effectively as any malignant narcissist or psychopath. Bullies tend to operate in networks and form alliances, comprising "clients" of the bully's patronage and "superiors" to whose needs the bully caters. Some bullies engage in antisocial behavior and white collar crime.
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