Victim phase I - DENIAL

At first the abuse is denied altogether or recast as benign behavior driven by "good intentions".

The victim's colleagues, his employees, his clients, his spouse, children, and friends, even when they acknowledge the bad news, wish to get on with life. Even the most considerate and empathic lose patience and tend to ignore the victim, chastise him, mock, or deride his feelings or behavior. They often seek to repress the painful memories, or to trivialize them.

Victim phase II - HELPLESSNESS

When the victim ceases to deny the abuse, he or she is seized by an overwhelming sense of humiliating helplessness, debilitating fatigue and mental disintegration - PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).


PHASE III - RAGE

The victim rages against his abuser and his own perceived acquiescence in the torture. To cope with the narcissistic injury, some victims direct their diffuse anger at perceived sources of frustration. Many develop persecutory (paranoid) delusions


PHASE IV - DEPRESSION

Self directed rage causes great sadness (dysphoria or depression) and even suicidal ideation.


PHASE V - ACCEPTANCE AND MOVING ON

Having processed hurtful material, the victims heals through acceptance.


based

1. http://www.personalhealthzone.com/post_traumatic_stress_disorder.html - NIMH about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
2. http://www.lundybancroft.com/pages/articles_sub/CUSTODY.htm - Understanding the Batterer in Custody and Visitation Disputes
3. http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/trauma.html - Traumas as Social Interactions
4. http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/medicalnews.php?newsid=29418 - The Psychology of Torture
5. http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/18046/117254 - PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
6. http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily21.html - How Victims are Affected by Abuse